HAPPY MONDAY, everyone! If you live in a country that still holds to Christian holidays above all else, you are probably on a long weekend right now, and usually you’d be outside, breathing in that beautiful springtime air. However, we are not doing that, unless you have a lovely garden, congratulations.
For those of us in apartments, flats, studios, bedsits and rented rooms with horrific housemates, this is a trying time. Not only are we going stir-crazy indoors, we’re also bored sh*tless, and that can manifest itself in the form of the following symptoms:
- Weight gain / weight loss
- Fatigue (oh BOY do I feel this one)
- Feelings of uselessness
- The unfightable urge to take up a stupid new hobby (see: bedazzling).
I don’t have all the answers, but I do have some suggestions for you, witches and friends, and this is where we are going to begin:
The daytime is better than the night time, so get up in the daytime.
I’ve read a LOT of comments about people becoming nocturnal during this strange time. I definitely see the appeal, everyone – the night time sucks and for some reason, it is WAY easier to sleep during the warm, encompassing light of the AM. However, we have longer days, and also, sunshine makes you happier. So, if you can, try to go to sleep earlier than 4am. I know, I know, it’s hard. Do as I say, not as I do, etc. Last night we were re-watching Spartacus: Blood and Sand until 3am (I should point out that only I am re-watching, Jessie hasn’t seen it before). Anyway, some things you could try to help you get to sleep before the birdies start singing include: taking a bath, drinking mugwort (NOT IF YOU ARE PREGNANT) or sleepy tea, taking Melatonin or Valerian Root supplements (always check with your doctor etc), listening to guided meditations or podcasts, using aromatherapy like lavender and chamomile, snacking on a banana (or if you are me, a 1am peanut butter sandwich), or reading something deeply boring.
This is a trick I started playing on myself during high-school. I would set goals and when I achieved them, I would reward myself. Basically, try to bribe yourself like you would a small child. Make a list of sh*t you need/want to do/know that you will feel better if you do it, and then figure out what’s going to motivate you to do it. No, writing, “I WILL NOT DIE FROM ANXIETY IF I GET IT DONE” does not count. Please make it something nice. Like a bubble bath or a glass of wine (drink responsibly) or some time reading a novel or re-watching Spartacus. I like to do this visually, so, for example, say I want to do 3 hours of studying, I will literally mark out 3 boxes of 4 x 15-min increments and then colour them in when I do them. This means I get to feel good about myself every 15 minutes, and the visual element really helps to kick your arse into gear if you’re getting distracted. Please note, however, that I am very much a fan of being f*cking kind to yourself, so please don’t call yourself lazy, just gently encourage yourself.
Remember that this sh*t isn’t normal, but your feelings are.
I love starting my days (when time allows) by listening to Sara Benincasa’s very excellent podcast, Well, This Isn’t Normal. And the point of it is – this isn’t normal. I KNOW, RIGHT? Like, we are in the middle of a global f*cking pandemic and guess what? It’s totally fine to be like, “Hi, what the f*ck is going on?”. So it’s absolutely fine that you are bored sh*tless, and you’re itching to go out, and all you want is to go out for a dinner that you don’t have to cook, or browse at the supermarket, or see your friends and family. It’s fine that you’re sometimes depressed, that you’re not sleeping at night or that you just want to lay in bed ALL DAY and watch Netflix / Amazon Prime / Hulu and that you have signed up for a 3-month trial of Starzplay as well as renewed your subscription to Hayu and the Discovery Channel. Okay? It’s f*cking fine, don’t be mean to yourself.
All I know is, when the world comes out the other side of this, it’s going to be different, and I don’t think it’s going to matter all that much if you didn’t write a novel during the lockdown. We’re just going to want to see and hold the people we love.
So, in conclusion, that was a rant about being nice to yourself, which is basically what all of my posts are about.
Have a beautiful week! See you on Wednesday for more lockdown-friendly witchcraft.